How senseless is it that female masturbation is still something of a taboo matter? It is especially maddening when you take the benefits of female masturbation into account. Our society has encouraged men to masturbate, but what about us women!? It’s ludicrous if you really think about the fact that, in this day and age, women still need to put an effort to cut out this incessant social stigma around female self-pleasuring.
Studies have shown that 81% of women in the United States masturbate or have masturbated, although never talked about freely, we all masturbate! It’s normal! Nearly a third of women actually prefer masturbation to sex. And almost half of the women that do masturbate, owns a toy. To masturbate or not to masturbate, either choice is absolutely normal and nothing to feel guilty about. But being that it’s still a topic that women tend to shy away from, we lose by the lack of information on the beautiful art of masturbation and it’s very many benefits.
How can there be a better way to learn about and get comfortable with our own body if not to self-pleasure? Masturbation helps our sex life in the long run. How can we have pleasurable sex with a partner when we don’t even know our own body? By taking the time to understand what we like and don’t like, we can then navigate our partner to better sex. Masturbation also releases endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin which improves our mood and creates a natural high which leads to happiness, better sleep, alleviates stress and a great natural way to ease body aches and those menacing menstrual cramps.
But the world of female pleasure is vast, and for those of you who are newbies – Where do we even start!? What are the different ways to masturbate? What is the best toy to use? How can I reach orgasm through masturbation?
At findSisterhood, we introduce to you our spotlight guest speaker, Dr. Shannon Chavez, to kick off the conversation on female masturbation. As a licensed psychologist and sex therapist, she guides and answers questions that we have around this topic. She discusses matters from how masturbation affects the brain to tips and tricks that can help us better our solo sessions. We welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez, a nationally recognized expert, therapist, and educator specializing in “all things sexuality” to our sisterhood!