There’s a lot that goes into taking care of ourselves, but it all begins with self-love. It might sound easy, but loving oneself can actually be a very difficult thing for many people. This, of course, depends on many factors such as someone’s upbringing or the adversities they may have faced during their lifetime. Even nurturing the relationship you have with yourself is vital and the basis of any other relationship you will have in your life. So, in order to have a better understanding of others, it’s important that we understand ourselves first.
While there are many ways to do this, there’s not an exact recipe or secret to know what’s right for you. In our FindSisterhood app, Ambassador Pacifique Mukobwajana answers some questions about what it means to love yourself and somethings you can do to actively practice self-love. She also offers advice to those who may be unsure about their purpose in life, and how she got through her own struggles as a refugee.
When it comes to the bigger issues it takes a lot more than bath bombs and a face mask to feel good about yourself, but knowing that you have a purpose, even if you don’t know it yet, can help change your perspective. As someone who once felt hopeless, Pacifique recalls how she felt when she had her first child and how it changed her life for the better.
Finding your purpose doesn’t have to happen overnight. In fact for most people, it can take years, but taking small steps such as finding little things that make you happy such as hobbies or causes that matter to you can bring you closer to that purpose. Many times it’s in those small moments that we may realize what life is really about. This is also true about helping others who might come from similar circumstances. The feeling of helping someone else is an amazing feeling and it can also help with the process of healing ourselves.
As we take time to build ourselves up, it’s also important that we hold the people we surround ourselves with to the same standard. Reevaluate the relationships in your life that make you feel less than or unlovable and don’t let anyone make you feel inferior for the things that you can’t change about yourself.
For more conversations about self-love and topics like it download and visit our FindSisterhood app.