There are so many obstacles that come along with being a new mother, not to mention the extra pressure women feel to have a successful career. It can become an overwhelming experience, and often it’s one that our male counterparts don’t usually have to think about.
There can be so many mixed feelings when it’s time to go back to work after spending some time with your newborn. In the beginning, you might feel a sense of guilt for leaving your child to get back to your career. Maybe you don’t want to get back to work but your financial situation doesn't allow for more mommy and baby bonding. Or maybe you can’t wait to get back to work and feel guilty because of this.
No matter your situation it’s important not to be so hard on yourself. It might not feel like it but almost every mother struggles with getting back into their rhythm, especially after a first child.
T Lopez answers some questions in our FindSisterhood app under the Working Moms spotlight that answer some common concerns for new moms that are getting back to work and moms who want more of a work, family balance.
A common concern for women is being judged for going back to work too soon after having a baby. When is the right time? Is there a right time? There’s no right answer.
Motherhood is a learning process and it’s different for everyone. No one can tell you what’s best because they’re not you. Doing what’s best for you and your baby and also not worrying about the opinions of others outside of the people who your decision will directly affect will take a lot of weight off of your shoulders.
Communicating with your partner will also ease a lot of the stress that comes with balancing your work and family life. It’s very easy to get sucked into the chaos that is life and forget why we do it all in the first place. Letting each other know what you expect from one another can prevent a lot of disappointment and arguments and overall make for a more peaceful home life. The same also applies when communicating with your village of helpers.
Even the most experienced mothers need help sometimes, so ask! Motherhood is difficult enough, you don't have to add the guilt of not being “perfect” to that equation.
Being a working mom never really gets easier but you do get more experienced as you learn.